{"id":11857,"date":"2018-11-02T14:31:42","date_gmt":"2018-11-02T19:31:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/?p=11857"},"modified":"2018-11-02T14:31:42","modified_gmt":"2018-11-02T19:31:42","slug":"book-review-didnt-see-it-coming","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/?p=11857","title":{"rendered":"Book Review: Didn&#8217;t See It Coming"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Didnt-See-Coming-Overcoming-Experiences\/dp\/0735291330\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1541164528&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=didn%27t+see+it+coming&amp;dpID=41zHHRe3E0L&amp;preST=_SY344_BO1,204,203,200_QL70_&amp;dpSrc=srch\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-11858 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/81IXChs1sBL-684x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"684\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/81IXChs1sBL-684x1024.jpg 684w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/81IXChs1sBL-201x300.jpg 201w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/81IXChs1sBL-768x1149.jpg 768w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/81IXChs1sBL.jpg 1687w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 684px) 100vw, 684px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>We still have 2 months left in 2018, but I may have found my Book of the Year.\u00a0 I was at <a href=\"http:\/\/northstarchurch.org\/lunch\">Lunch with a Leader at Northstar Church<\/a> a few weeks ago when <a href=\"http:\/\/mikelinch.com\/\">Pastor Mike Linch<\/a> mentioned this book.\u00a0 We are studying through the life of David in that Bible study and Mike pointed to this book as a great way to examine your heart as a leader.\u00a0 For me, the book was great to point out areas where cynicism, burnout, and depression can begin to creep in when we take our eyes off of who Jesus is and the fact that our identity must be found in Him first..and always above all other things.\u00a0 This book was a great read&#8230;definitely left me with a lot to think about.\u00a0 It was refreshing to be reminded that God is in control!\u00a0 This book also equipped me with some thoughts on how to encourage others.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Didnt-See-Coming-Overcoming-Experiences\/dp\/0735291330\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1541164528&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=didn%27t+see+it+coming&amp;dpID=41zHHRe3E0L&amp;preST=_SY344_BO1,204,203,200_QL70_&amp;dpSrc=srch\"><em>Didn&#8217;t See It Coming: Overcoming the 7 Greatest Challenges That No One Expects and Everyone Experiences<\/em><\/a> by <a href=\"https:\/\/careynieuwhof.com\/\">Carey Nieuwhof<\/a><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Are there signs that you\u2019re enroute to becoming incredibly successful and desperately empty at the same time? Location: 191<\/li>\n<li>Cynicism, compromise, disconnection, irrelevance, pride, burnout, emptiness\u2014none of these need to be your final story. You can see them coming. You can identify them when they arrive. And when you name them, when you see them, they lose some of their allure as well as their power. Location: 237<\/li>\n<li>Cynicism begins not because you don\u2019t care but because you do care. Location: 348<\/li>\n<li>Knowledge often brings sorrow because the more you know, the more you see life for what it really is. Location: 372<\/li>\n<li>The problem with generalizing\u2014applying one particular situation to all situations\u2014is that the death of trust, hope, and belief is like a virus, infecting everything. You think you\u2019re protecting yourself from the future when, in reality, your new stance infects your present. Location: 411<\/li>\n<li>What I needed to understand is what you need to understand: cynicism is actually a choice. Cynics aren\u2019t born; they\u2019re made. Life doesn\u2019t make you a cynic; you make you a cynic. Location: 441<\/li>\n<li>Cynics never change the world. They just tell you why the world can\u2019t change. Location: 443<\/li>\n<li>Cynicism melts under the relentless hope of the gospel. Your past isn\u2019t your future. Not if you get Jesus involved. Bitterness can\u2019t linger under the relentless assault of love. Hope cannot die if an empty tomb empowers it. Location: 488<\/li>\n<li>If you listen longer than most people listen, you\u2019ll hear things most people never hear. Location: 536<\/li>\n<li>Your competency leaves the first impression, but your character leaves the lasting one. Location: 670<\/li>\n<li>Keep honing your heart. Keep nurturing your soul. You may not be who you want to be, but you\u2019re not done yet. Location: 705<\/li>\n<li>Blaise Pascal was right: \u201cThe sole cause of man\u2019s unhappiness is that he does not know how to stay quietly in his room.\u201d Location: 814<\/li>\n<li>The antidote to compromise is simply this: work twice as hard on your character as you do on your competency. Location: 827<\/li>\n<li>As soon as you start to admit that you\u2019re the problem, you start to make progress. Location: 883<\/li>\n<li>If you simply make your talk match your walk, the gap between who you are and who you want to be becomes smaller almost instantly. Location: 924<\/li>\n<li>Competency gets you in the room. Character keeps you in the room. Location: 977<\/li>\n<li>Solitude is a gift from God. Isolation is not\u2014it\u2019s a tool of the Enemy. Location: 1,017<\/li>\n<li>\u201cYou must ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life.\u201d Location: 1,287<\/li>\n<li>Why should you become a student of culture? Simple. People who don\u2019t understand today\u2019s culture will never be able to speak into it. Whether you agree with the culture or not, understanding it is a prerequisite to being able to influence it. Location: 1,567<\/li>\n<li>It\u2019s the arrogance born of comparison. Location: 1,733<\/li>\n<li>As Tim Keller put it, \u201cWhen work is your identity, success goes to your head, and failure goes to your heart.\u201d1 Location: 1,745<\/li>\n<li>Unrestrained, pride will relentlessly drive you to remove whatever challenges it, and one of its most consistent threats is accountability. Location: 1,835<\/li>\n<li>Gratitude fosters humility because it moves you out of the role of the star in your story. Location: 1,945<\/li>\n<li>What do you need to be ridiculously honest about with yourself and with God? What do you need to confess? What describes you that you wish didn\u2019t? Location: 2,023<\/li>\n<li>It\u2019s so easy to spot pride in others. But people who spot it in themselves and cultivate humility develop a much richer, much more fulfilling life. Location: 2,027<\/li>\n<li>Cynicism never finds a home in a healthy heart. Location: 2,181<\/li>\n<li>So how do I live in a way today that will help me thrive tomorrow? Maintaining health in all five major areas of life (spiritual, emotional, relational, physical, and financial) has become a top priority for me. Location: 2,353<\/li>\n<li>if God wants to go deep, it\u2019s because he wants to take you far. 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