{"id":12437,"date":"2019-10-18T15:13:21","date_gmt":"2019-10-18T20:13:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/?p=12437"},"modified":"2019-10-18T15:13:21","modified_gmt":"2019-10-18T20:13:21","slug":"book-review-the-road-back-to-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/?p=12437","title":{"rendered":"Book Review: The Road Back to You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"663\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/meganstrange.test\/content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/road-back-to-you-663x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-12438\" srcset=\"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/road-back-to-you-663x1024.jpg 663w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/road-back-to-you-194x300.jpg 194w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/road-back-to-you-356x550.jpg 356w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/road-back-to-you-324x500.jpg 324w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/road-back-to-you.jpg 682w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 663px) 100vw, 663px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;<em>This idea of self-compassion raises the other issue we want you to take away from this book: every number on the Enneagram teaches us something about the nature and character of the God who made us. Inside each number is a hidden gift that reveals something about God\u2019s heart. So when you are tempted to prosecute yourself for the flaws in your own character, remember that each type is at its core a signpost pointing us to travel toward and embrace an aspect of God\u2019s character that we need.&#8221; Ian Morgan Cron, <\/em>Page: 228<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Road-Back-You-Enneagram-Self-Discovery\/dp\/0830846190\/ref=sr_1_1?crid=PMKDJOH9OQSE&amp;keywords=ian+morgan+cron+the+road+back+to+you&amp;qid=1571429333&amp;sprefix=ian+morgan+cro%2Caps%2C141&amp;sr=8-1\">The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery<\/a><\/em> by <a href=\"https:\/\/ianmorgancron.com\/\">Ian Morgan Cron<\/a> was a great read!  I&#8217;ve heard great things about it and have listened to several podcasts that he was a part of.  Talking about the Enneagram is a popular thing right now.  I love when these types of things come out and everyone is talking about it.  What are you on the DISC?  How about Myers-Briggs?  Are you an otter or a golden retriever?  Sanguine or choleric?  In the end, all of these things can be valuable&#8230;IF&#8230;they help us learn more about how God has gifted us and how we can best use those gifts to love and serve Him and others.  I&#8217;ve had lots of people tell me that I&#8217;m an 8.  I probably am.  After reading this&#8230;the good, bad, and the ugly of the 8 hits pretty close to home.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I highlighted several things while reading and have posted those notes below&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>May you learn to see your self with the same\ndelight, pride, and expectation with which God sees you in every moment. Page:\n19<\/li><li>Human beings are wired for survival. As little\nkids we instinctually place a mask called personality over parts of our\nauthentic self to protect us from harm and make our way in the world. Page: 22<\/li><li>As Frederick Buechner so poignantly describes\nit, \u201cThe original, shimmering self gets buried so deep that most of us end up\nhardly living out of it at all. Instead we live out all the other selves, which\nwe are constantly putting on and taking off like coats and hats against the\nworld\u2019s weather.\u201d Page: 23<\/li><li>The Enneagram teaches that there are nine\ndifferent personality styles in the world, one of which we naturally gravitate\ntoward and adopt in childhood to cope and feel safe. Each type or number has a\ndistinct way of seeing the world and an underlying motivation that powerfully\ninfluences how that type thinks, feels and behaves. Page: 24<\/li><li>The Enneagram takes its name from the Greek\nwords for nine (ennea) and for a drawing or figure (gram). It is a nine-pointed\ngeometric figure that illustrates nine different but interconnected personality\ntypes. Each numbered point on the circumference is connected to two others by\narrows across the circle, indicating their dynamic interaction with one\nanother. Page: 25<\/li><li>\u201cA humble self-knowledge is a surer way to God\nthan a search after deep learning.\u201d Thomas \u00c0 Kempis Page: 26<\/li><li>The true purpose of the Enneagram is to reveal\nto you your shadow side and offer spiritual counsel on how to open it to the\ntransformative light of grace. Page: 31<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Healthy Eights are great friends, exceptional\nleaders and champions of those who cannot fight on their own behalf. They have\nthe intelligence, courage and stamina to do what others say can\u2019t be done. They\nhave learned to use power in the right measure at the right times, and they are\ncapable of collaborating and valuing the contributions of others. They\nunderstand vulnerability and even embrace it at times. Page: 41<\/li><li>Healthy Nines are natural mediators. They see\nand value the perspective of other people and can harmonize what seem to be\nirreconcilable points of view. They are unselfish, flexible and inclusive.\nThese Nines are seldom attached to their own way of seeing and doing things.\nThey\u2019ve learned to make decisions based on the right priorities. They are\ninspiring, self-actualized people. Page: 64<\/li><li>Healthy Ones are committed to a life of service\nand integrity. They are balanced and responsible and able to forgive themselves\nand others for being imperfect. They are principled but patient with the\nprocesses that slowly but surely make the world a better place. Page: 91<\/li><li>Healthy Twos can often name their own needs and\nfeelings without fear of losing relationships. They are generous in their\nefforts to love well and care for others. These happy, secure Twos also have\nappropriate boundaries, knowing what is theirs to do and what is not. They\ncreate a comfortable, safe space for others and are often considered to be a\nfriend to many. Loving and lovable, they adapt well to changing circumstances\nand are aware of the true self that exists beyond their relationships. Page:\n111<\/li><li>The real question is, can you love the real me?\n. . . Not that image you had of me, but who I really am. Christine Feehan Page:\n130<\/li><li>Healthy Threes have transcended the goal of\nmerely looking good and are moving toward being known and loved for who they\nare, not for what they accomplish. They still love to set goals, rise to\nchallenges and solve problems, but their self-worth is not tied to these\nthings. They try to balance their abundant energy between work, rest and some\nkind of contemplative practice, recognizing the importance of being instead of\ndoing. They feel valuable, which unleashes a tender benevolence that is focused\non the common good. Page: 130<\/li><li>Healthy Fours have a considerable emotional\nrange, and they manage it by not speaking or acting on every feeling they have.\nThey know they don\u2019t have to be special to win God\u2019s unconditional love. These\nFours have found a way to live, for the most part, outside the pattern of shame\nand inferiority. They are deeply creative, emotionally honest and connected, and\nattuned to beauty. Page: 149<\/li><li>Healthy Fives have a long view of things. They\nmanage an appropriate balance between participation and observation, engaging\nwith others comfortably and demonstrating true neutrality. These Fives are likely\nto have depth in knowledge in several areas of their lives, and they willingly\nshare their findings with others. They live in a world of abundance, seeing\nthemselves as part of the whole environment instead of separate from everyone\nand everything. Page: 168<\/li><li>Healthy Sixes have learned to trust their own\nexperiences of life. They are aware that certainty and accurate predictability\nare not likely in most situations. They are productive, logical thinkers who\nalmost always organize their thoughts and actions around what would be most\nadvantageous for the common good. Loyal, honest and reliable, healthy Sixes are\nclear-eyed judges of character. These Sixes have come to believe that in the\nend everything will be all right. Page: 189<\/li><li>\u201cAnxiety is like a rocking chair. It gives you\nsomething to do, but it doesn\u2019t get you very far.\u201d Jodi Picoult Page: 198<\/li><li>\u201cFaith is a place of mystery, where we find the\ncourage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear\nof uncertainty.\u201d Bren\u00e9 Brown Page: 202<\/li><li>Healthy Sevens know that often \u201cless is more.\u201d\nThey are aware of the energy they have invested in manufacturing happiness and\nthey know that joy is a gift or grace that can only be received. They have\nembraced a full range of human emotion and they are growing in their ability to\naccept life as it is rather than as they want it to be. They are able to\nincorporate pain and disappointment into the whole of their lives, rather than\nmerely avoiding it. When Enthusiasts are in a healthy space, they are not only\nfun and adventurous but also spiritually grounded, practical and resilient. Page:\n206<\/li><li>\u201cCompassion is a verb.\u201d Thich Nhat Hanh Page:\n227<\/li><li>If we all could have nine pairs of Enneagram\nglasses and swap them, we could be moved to extend infinitely more grace and\nunderstanding to one another. Such compassion is the foundation of\nrelationships. It changes everything. Page: 227<\/li><li>This idea of self-compassion raises the other\nissue we want you to take away from this book: every number on the Enneagram\nteaches us something about the nature and character of the God who made us.\nInside each number is a hidden gift that reveals something about God\u2019s heart.\nSo when you are tempted to prosecute yourself for the flaws in your own\ncharacter, remember that each type is at its core a signpost pointing us to\ntravel toward and embrace an aspect of God\u2019s character that we need. Page: 228<\/li><li>We most delight and reflect the glory of God\nwhen we discover and reclaim our God-given identity, with which we lost\nconnection shortly after our arrival in this fallen world. Page: 230<\/li><li>And now allow us the joy of passing on to you\nJohn O\u2019Donohue\u2019s Blessing for Solitude, which Br. Dave prayed over me as I\nembarked on my Enneagram journey of self-discovery and self-knowledge. May you\nrecognize in your life the presence, power, and light of your soul. May you\nrealize that you are never alone, that your soul in its brightness and\nbelonging connects you intimately with the rhythm of the universe. May you have\nrespect for your individuality and difference. May you realize that the shape\nof your soul is unique, that you have a special destiny here, that behind the\nfa\u00e7ade of your life there is something beautiful and eternal happening. May you\nlearn to see your self with the same delight, pride, and expectation with which\nGod sees you in every moment. Amen. Let it be so. Page: 230<\/li><\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;This idea of self-compassion raises the other issue we want you to take away from this book: every number on the Enneagram teaches us something about the nature and character of the God who made us. Inside each number is a hidden gift that reveals something about God\u2019s heart. 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