{"id":14247,"date":"2022-06-25T15:31:32","date_gmt":"2022-06-25T20:31:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/?p=14247"},"modified":"2022-06-25T15:31:32","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T20:31:32","slug":"book-review-the-life-were-looking-for","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/?p=14247","title":{"rendered":"Book Review | The Life We&#8217;re Looking For"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"741\" src=\"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Screen-Shot-2022-06-25-at-4.25.12-PM-1024x741.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14248\" srcset=\"https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Screen-Shot-2022-06-25-at-4.25.12-PM-1024x741.png 1024w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Screen-Shot-2022-06-25-at-4.25.12-PM-300x217.png 300w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Screen-Shot-2022-06-25-at-4.25.12-PM-768x556.png 768w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Screen-Shot-2022-06-25-at-4.25.12-PM-1536x1112.png 1536w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Screen-Shot-2022-06-25-at-4.25.12-PM-465x337.png 465w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Screen-Shot-2022-06-25-at-4.25.12-PM-691x500.png 691w, https:\/\/meganstrange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Screen-Shot-2022-06-25-at-4.25.12-PM.png 1768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>I can&#8217;t think of a better place to read about reclaiming relationships than on a beach vacation with family on a Caribbean Island.  In fact, buy this book&#8230;and then buy a plane ticket&#8230;and prepare to dive into a great conversation dealing with the longings of your heart, soul, and mind.  I strongly commend <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Life-Were-Looking-Relationship-Technological-ebook\/dp\/B099W5SXPK\/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2KS0Y2E6ZJTED&amp;keywords=andy+crouch+the+life+we+are+looking+for&amp;qid=1656188758&amp;sprefix=andy+crouch%2Caps%2C70&amp;sr=8-1\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Life-Were-Looking-Relationship-Technological-ebook\/dp\/B099W5SXPK\/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2KS0Y2E6ZJTED&amp;keywords=andy+crouch+the+life+we+are+looking+for&amp;qid=1656188758&amp;sprefix=andy+crouch%2Caps%2C70&amp;sr=8-1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The Life We&#8217;re Looking for by Andy Crouch<\/a><\/em>, just as I have everything else I&#8217;ve ever read that he has written.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Technology has left us all feeling more &#8220;connected&#8221; than ever before.  After all, how else would I be keeping up with my favorite science teacher from the 8th grade?  But as much as I love Mrs. Roberts and the fact that she likes the pictures of my kids on Instagram, I haven&#8217;t talked to her in almost 30 years and she isn&#8217;t going to ask me &#8220;how are you really doing?&#8221;  The &#8220;connections&#8221; we often claim are truly just busyness that causes us to miss what&#8217;s most important.  Crouch&#8217;s new work helps us identify that feeling of longing and gives us some practical ideas to consider as we take steps to move into <em>The Life We&#8217;re Looking For.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I highlighted several things while reading and have posted those notes below&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>The capacity to recognize a face takes up a substantial part of the human brain, evolved over millions of years.&nbsp; In a few decades, we have managed to train our computers to approximate this capacity to the point that our machines can, in a sense, recognize us.&nbsp; p. 6<\/li><li>&#8230;before we knew to look for a mirror, we were looking for another person&#8217;s face.&nbsp; p. 11<\/li><li>The Paradox of Personhood:<ul><li>There is a difference between &#8220;something&#8221; and &#8220;someone.&#8221; The difference is personhood. &#8211; German philosopher Robert Spaemann<\/li><li>It is when another person&#8217;s face and voice recognize us, not for what we can offer them (exploitation) but for what we intrinsically are (contemplation), that we know who we are.<\/li><li>While personhood can be denied (though never truly taken away) and it can be gravely harmed, it also can be developed. p. 30<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>Of all the creatures on earth, we are by far the most dependent, the most relational, the most social, and the most capable of care.&nbsp; When we love, we are most fully and distinctly ourselves.&nbsp; p. 35<\/li><li>The defining mental activity of our time is scrolling.&nbsp; Our capacities of attention, memory, and concentration are diminishing; to compensate, we toggle back and forth between infinite feeds of news, posts, images, episodes, &#8211; taking shallow hits of trivia, humor, and outrage to make up for the depths of learning, joy, and genuine lament that now feel beyond our reach. p. 58<\/li><li>&#8220;Magna opera Domini exquisita in omnes voluntates ejus.&#8221; Psalm 111:2 p. 79<\/li><li>Impacting culture | He was shaped in his youth by a kind of Christianity that aspired to impact culture, but he has come to have a difference picture of his work and mission.&nbsp; &#8220;Most of us want to be a <em>force<\/em>,&#8221; Dave Murray says.&nbsp; &#8220;But Jesus calls us to be a <em>taste<\/em>.&#8221; p. 130<\/li><li>Evert technical advance in human history has been borne on the wings of two promises:<ul><li>&#8220;Now you&#8217;ll be able to&#8230;&#8221;<\/li><li>&#8220;You&#8217;ll no longer have to&#8230;&#8221;<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>There are two other consequences of any new device that are restricted capabilities and enforced burdens:<ul><li>&#8220;You&#8217;ll no longer be able to&#8230;&#8221;<\/li><li>Now you&#8217;ll have to&#8230;&#8221; p. 140<\/li><\/ul><\/li><li>You are part of a household if there is someone who knows where you are today and who has at least some sense of how it feels to be where you are.&nbsp; You are part of a household if there is something who moves more quietly when they know you are asleep.&nbsp; You are part of a household if someone would check on you if you did not awaken. p. 153<\/li><li>We need a place where we cannot hide.&nbsp; We need a place where we cannot get lost. p. 154<\/li><li>The privacy we cherish is in constant danger of curdling into isolation. p. 160<\/li><li>The household is the first and most important canopy of trust we need to thrive as human beings-a place where we can always go, a place where we are safe enough to sleep. p. 167<\/li><li>We have more medicine than ever, but we are by no means well. p. 189<\/li><li>How many generations can be shaped by one household who gather around a table, recognize one another, and send one another out into the world? p. 213<\/li><\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I can&#8217;t think of a better place to read about reclaiming relationships than on a beach vacation with family on a Caribbean Island. In fact, buy this book&#8230;and then buy a plane ticket&#8230;and prepare to dive into a great conversation dealing with the longings of your heart, soul, and mind. 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